She's gone & left me...

So sorry man,I've been there and I'm sure a bunch of us has.i believe things happen for a reason and that blessings come in disguise.

My last girlfriend of 7yrs did the same thing up and left me for someone else.i worked alot and she didn't,so did the guy she left me for.
I've now moved on and the only regret I have is why the hell did I stay with her for so long.anyways that's another story.

Happy Bday bro...

happy for your lost and look forward to brighter future ahead. as you can see NCKA is truly a family with wealth of support. who would ever think a bunch of guys talking openly about their troubles/ personal issue. I'm not surprised one bit of all the great responses from all showing support and suggestions. Love NCKA bro/sisterhood. stay strong/true...do whatever make u happy. long walks with doggies at the beach with rod in had is a nice day to spent.

if u ever want to hit the shores of SF- I'm down.

Keep your chin up bro and know that a lot of people have your back. Grieve in your own way and time but try and do your best not to let those negative thoughts creep into your head. Time will heal and you'll come out of this stronger and more resilient than ever

Todays lunchtime fortune cookie. A propos like a muthergrabba

From reading the initial post, it doesn't sound like you should be shouldering the brunt of this Mr shadee.  I'm sure there's a lot more to it but marriage is a two way street, she bears some responsibility in the matter.  I'd take comfort in knowing it's not all on me.

Never easy to find a silver lining in stuff like this but things could always be worse.  And since you're about to reach bottom, things can only get better from here. Just stop sturgeon fishing, that's a joyless pursuit to begin with

Always conduct yourself in an honorable manner no matter how the other side acts.

Sound advice right here.....I could probably write a book about all the despicable things my daughter's mom did while we split and went through custody hearings. I didnt lower myself to her level and continuously had to remind myself that the best revenge was living well.

Plenty of good things have come my way and she's still a miserable person. 

Always conduct yourself in an honorable manner no matter how the other side acts.

Sound advice right here.....I could probably write a book about all the despicable things my daughter's mom did while we split and went through custody hearings. I didnt lower myself to her level and continuously had to remind myself that the best revenge was living well.

Well said.  I haven't gone through anything close to what you're experiencing, personally, so I can't imagine how much it sucks. 

Professionally, this is great advice.  Remember that the legal side of divorce is intended to be a logical number-crunching process.  If you can keep your emotions out of it, as much as possible, you'll be far better off.  If you start fighting over this sofa set, or that car, you're just going to waste time, money, and your emotional well-being.  No reason to spend $10 chasing $11.

That sucks bro! I tell you what, in the spirit of brotherhood I can give you one of mine Being Im asian you will find them almost barely used

I hope this made you smile a bit. 

yeah like Dale said---perfect place to let it flow----heck we;ve almost all been divorced here lol      some are setting records...your home son

It's been over 20 years for me, lots of good advice been given so far, and like mentioned time and again, it will get better, make take some time though.

I couldn't think of a wiser thing for you to do than to post it up here, NCKA is an exemplary group of people,

My divorce proceedings were long and much more stressful than the breakup since we had 2 kids. 

What got me thru it was to adopt a couple rules that may help you to come out the other side with head held high and the respect of all around you.

Always conduct yourself in an honorable manner no matter how the other side acts.

And always make your decisions on based what's best for the children involved (even indirect effects are tramatic).

I found both of these very hard to do at times but they become a guiding light when things are the darkest.

Don't be reluctant to seek help if you think you need it,

I wish you well,

oh last thing --all the shit i cared about when mine went down -be it things or feelings

ask me now

i could not list 2 things

joke;
 guy wakes up from a house fire in the E.R
Doc says: ive got good news and bad news-which should i tell you first?

guy says -bad news first
doc says: youv'e lost everything and your wife is gone

guys says omg omg omg 
what could be good news now??

doc says: your wifes gone

 I am sorry! I have been there and you will be a better man when the dust settles!

Much mojo to you.  If you want a head-clearing paddle off the rockwall, PM.

  Wow,,,    First off, that took a lot of guts to post.  You're a bigger man than me.  I don't think I could have opened up like that.     Also, I can't possibly offer anything that all these peeps have already said.     Good to know there's such a supportive group of friends out there like these here fellers..   
    Now from experience,   I've been through three divorces, before I finally found a woman with the patience to put up with my shit...           None were easy,  all were just part of life's lessons.

    How's that country song go...  " She told me if I went fishing again she'd leave me... I'm sure gonna miss her"

Man i cant say anything that has not been said all solid dudes here for you in more ways then fishing... Keep moving forward stay positive. And plan to be at the Forbay Fish&Chill with your bros!

Chin up brother, it's gonna get better. Come on down to Monterey for a paddle.

Thanks again everyone. I hope I can find a way to be a friend to each and every one of you, the way you have been friendly to me.

It's been real help to read this thread over and over. The overwhelming response has removed the sense of aloneness just enough to get me to work on time, ready to face my challenges.

Again, mass gratitude to you all.